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Rejection - How To Really Deal With It

Rejection: How To Really Deal With It [Video+Podcast]

ONE OF THE BIGGEST CHALLENGES MEN FACE when asking women out on dates is rejection. Fear of rejection is the one thing that can really crush a man’s self-confidence and immobilize his momentum. It’s akin to feeling like he doesn’t belong. Surprisingly it’s not just limited to men who may be shy or introverted.

How many men have you met who have very successful careers and social lives and yet, suffer from the very same ego-destroying negative self talk? Luckily it’s completely possible to turn the corner and take your foot off the brakes to your love life. Find out in this podcast what it takes to wake up one day and change the course of your life.

My guest today, Francis Piché is founder and host of The Resilience Element Show. His love for connecting with people fueled his meteoric rise to top sales performer at multiple international corporations, including Xerox. Francis refuses to believe that making massive money and having huge happiness must exist in opposition. He has embarked on a journey to discover the key element to sustained and sustainable satisfaction in life. His answer? The Resilience Element.

Francis speaks from the heart about his personal experience with defeating rejection. In this podcast Francis shares an exercise on how to get more dates in a surprisingly fun way!

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In this episode on rejection you’ll learn how to…

•  Use The Resilience Element to attract women

•  Get past your negative self-talk

•  Build confidence authentically

•  Fail faster and fail forward to get you through your resistance

•  Get an even better version of “yourself” back after rejection

Tune in and ENJOY!!

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Esmée St James – The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious Men

Connect with Francis

Site: theresilienceelement.com

FB: Resilence Element

Dating: A look Through A Stunning Single Mom's Eyes

Dating: A look through a STUNNING SINGLE MOM’S eyes [video+podcast]

If you’re divorced and dating the chances are high… Whether you’re a single dad or just plain old single man over 40, you’re likely to meet plenty of single moms also looking for love. You’l also soon discover that things have changed since those younger, carefree days of spontaneous free love and spur of the moment weekends away.

Dating at this point in your life is a whole new ball game since many working single women now have kids to consider. As you may have also. It can make your head spin because not only are these women more savvy and well put together, they’re much more on the alert for warning flags. They know exactly what they want and what they don’t want.

But fear not, I’m going to give you some highly useful tips on how to handle yourself, and her on your dates.

My guest today, Jorel Mee has been a successful hair color artist for over 20 years. She’s a very intelligent, busy single mom and she’s looking for love. It doesn’t hurt that she’s also stunning and has a lovely personality. A triple threat! I interviewed Jorel for you because she tells it like it is. Hang on… you’re about to find out what successful single moms really want from their dates!

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In this Episode You’ll Learn…

  • How to wow her
  • If your income is important to your date
  • What the 5 biggest turnoffs are for her
  • When and how it is ok to touch her
  • What your manners reveal about your personality

Tune in and ENJOY!!new-note

 

Esmée St James – The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious Men

Connect with Jorel

Email: jmeecolorspecialist@gmail.com


About this Podcast & Video Series:

Esmée St James – Top Secret Tips for Smart, Single Men podcast features discussions on topics, tips and issues important to single men just like you. Because I want YOU to become the man the every smart, gorgeous woman really wants.

As a Dating & Style Strategist for Smart, Serious Men, I coach men to attract women confidently. The best part is, I tell it from a woman’s perspective!

In this revealing podcast & video series, I interviews male and female professionals and experts. They openly share their thoughts on what women really want. The show is aimed at single men who want to know… What does it take to be irresistibly magnetic to women?

In these podcasts & videos you will learn…

  • The right things to say and do to make that gorgeous woman interested in you
  • How to have more confidence and success picking up dates
  • How to avoid the friend zone
  • How to get great emotional and physical connection
  • What she’s really thinking at first sight

Click here to subscribe to this podcast on iTunes

Style: How to Use It to Attract Women

STYLE: HOW TO USE IT TO ATTRACT WOMEN [Video/Podcast]

A MAN’S PERSONAL STYLE TELLS women so much more than whether he’s a sharp dresser or not. The first impression you make on her is always made the moment she first sees you. That impression of you tells your story. Like it or not, it can maker of break your chances of getting a date with her.

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Also available on Stitcher!


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My guest today is a sociologist, writer, and entrepreneur. She is the founder of Sociology of Style, an image and life coaching company. I interviewed her for you because I wanted to get her point of view on how men can maximize their style to attract to attract women. Her name is Anna Akbari, PhD, and she’s a former professor at New York University and Parsons School of Design. She’s partner in HVCK, a Silicon Valley innovation consultancy. She’s also a frequent public speaker at conferences and for corporations. Anna’s written for and has been featured by Forbes, CNN, The Atlantic, The Economist, The Financial Times, TED, Bulletproof Executive, New York Observer, DailyWorth, The Huffington Post, and dozens more. Her new book, Startup Your Life: Hustle and Hack Your Way To Happiness, will be out in December.

In this Episode on Style You’ll Learn…

  • What subconscious message your style conveys to women
  • The first thing women notice immediately about men
  • Why it’s important to feel comfortable in your clothes
  • What kind of wardrobe items men should always invest in
  • How developing your image will attract more women

Tune in and ENJOY!!

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Esmée St James – The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious Men

Resources: Startup your life: Hack and Hustle Your Way to Happiness

Connect with Anna:

FB: Sociology of Style

Twitter: @annaakbari 

Website: Sociology of Style

 


About this Podcast & Video Series:

Esmée St James – Top Secret Tips for Smart, Single Men

podcast features discussions on topics, tips and issues important to single men just like you. Because I want YOU to become the man the every smart, gorgeous woman really wants.

As a Dating & Style Strategist for Smart, Serious Men, I coach men to attract women confidently. The best part is, I tell it from a woman’s perspective!

In this revealing podcast & video series, I interviews male and female professionals and experts. They openly share their thoughts on what women really want. The show is aimed at single men who want to know… What does it take to be irresistibly magnetic to women?

In these podcasts & videos you will learn…

  • The right things to say and do to make that gorgeous woman interested in you
  • How to have more confidence and success picking up dates
  • How to avoid the friend zone
  • How to get great emotional and physical connection
  • What she’s really thinking at first sight

Click here to subscribe to this podcast on iTunes

Does Plastic Surgery Make Men More Dateable?

DOES PLASTIC SURGERY MAKE MEN MORE DATEABLE? [Video & Podcast]

THE PRESSURE TO LOOK YOUNGER is no longer limited to women. It is becoming less of a social stigma for men to have a little nip and tuck or perhaps some Botox and fillers to appear more youthful. Of course, plastic surgery is not for everyone. However, the competition in both the dating scene and the job market can be quite stiff. For many reasons, successful women are more attracted to younger looking men and they now have the choice.

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For today’s show I interviewed award winning Dr. Rich Castellano, of the most experienced board certified facial plastic surgeons in the U.S. I chose Dr. Castellano, AKA “The Smile Dr.” for you because his specialty is facial rejuvenation in both men and women. As developer of ImageLift®, a specialized plastic surgery approach with very effective results, he has helped over 10,000 patients look their best, youthful self.

In this Episode about Plastic Surgery for men You’ll Learn…

  • What cosmetic procedures are most effective for men 40+
  • How plastic surgery affects a man’s confidence level
  • How it can make a man look more masculine
  • How you know it’s right for you
  • What’s the most cost effective way to look younger

Resources: The Smile Prescription

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Esmée St James – The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious Men

Connect with Dr. Rich:

FB: ImageLift

Twitter: @richcastellano

Website: ImageLift.com


About this Podcast & Video Series:

Esmée St James – Top Secret Tips for Smart, Single Men

podcast features discussions on topics, tips and issues important to single men just like you. Because I want YOU to become the man the every smart, gorgeous woman really wants.

As a Dating & Style Strategist for Smart, Serious Men, I coach men to attract women confidently. The best part is, I tell it from a woman’s perspective!

In this revealing podcast & video series, I interviews male and female professionals and experts. They openly share their thoughts on what women really want. The show is aimed at single men who want to know… What does it take to be irresistibly magnetic to women?

In these podcasts & videos you will learn…

  • The right things to say and do to make that gorgeous woman interested in you
  • How to have more confidence and success picking up dates
  • How to avoid the friend zone
  • How to get great emotional and physical connection
  • What she’s really thinking at first sight

Click here to subscribe to this podcast on iTunes

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FRIEND ZONE: WHY NICE GUYS FINISH LAST [Video+Podcast]


THERE’S AN OCEAN OF NICE GUYS OUT THERE
 wondering why they are stuck in the dreaded Friend Zone. They may have myriad female friends but not one of them will get romantic with him. Why? It’s not that they are unattractive or undateable, it goes much deeper than that.

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Watch the interview video on YouTube here!

My guest today is the founder of The Authentic Man program. He is an award winning public speaker, and a certified No More Mr. Nice Guy coach. His name is David Mitchell and I interviewed him for you because the Nice Guy Syndrome can be a huge obstacle in attracting romantic relationships. For the past 20 years, David has been helping men overcome approach anxiety and attract the women they want.

In this Episode of “Friend Zone: Why Nice Guys Finish Last” You’ll Learn…

  • What the Nice Guy Syndrome is
  • Why Nice Guys end up in the Friend Zone
  • What is Toxic Shame
  • Why Toxic Shame ruins your love life
  • How to get out of the Friend Zone

Tune in and ENJOY!!
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Esmée St James – The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious

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About this Podcast & Video Series:

Esmée St James – Top Secret Tips for Smart, Single Men

podcast features discussions on topics, tips and issues important to single men just like you. Because I want YOU to become the man the every smart, gorgeous woman really wants.

As a Dating & Style Strategist for Smart, Serious Men, I coach men to attract women confidently. The best part is, I tell it from a woman’s perspective!

In this revealing podcast & video series, I interviews male and female professionals and experts. They openly share their thoughts on what women really want. The show is aimed at single men who want to know… What does it take to be irresistibly magnetic to women?

In these podcasts & videos you will learn…

  • The right things to say and do to make that gorgeous woman interested in you
  • How to have more confidence and success picking up dates
  • How to avoid the friend zone
  • How to get great emotional and physical connection
  • What she’s really thinking at first sight

 

Click here to subscribe to this podcast on iTunes

Seducing Her With Scent In Your Kitchen

SEDUCE HER WITH SCENT IN YOUR KITCHEN – 3 TIPS

THE COGNAC SOAKED SCENT of Coq au Vin wafting from your stovetop are going to your head when all of a sudden, your culinary trance is interrupted by is a knock at the door. She’s here, it’s her first date at your place and you’ve brazenly offered to whip up something delicious for her to lure her over to your lair.

So far so good, you’ve done your due diligence by asking her what she likes to eat, what she likes to drink, you’ve even tuned in to her musical preferences. Being the clever sleuth that you are, you’ve taken the time to listen attentively to her responses and have even made mental notes on any additional clues she’s dropped about what delights her. You’re sure you haven’t missed a thing.

The aroma of your daring culinary efforts and attention to detail will definitely not go unnoticed, women are very sensually stimulated and… hold on there, pardner, put down the toys! I’m simply talking about the moment your date crosses your threshold for the first time, she will have her guard up and whatever scent hits her olfactory glands first will tell her volumes. It’s natural instinct for a woman to be on the lookout for anything suspicious or potentially threatening. Much like a cat cautiously sniffing everything  when she enters a new house,  your date will be looking for reasons to bolt as she enters unfamiliar territory. It’s your job to help her feel safe, protected and secure. Your  Coq au Vin will do much to alleviate her “doorstep doubts” but there’s more to consider.

A woman’s olfactory glands are generally much more sensitive than a man’s.

Like a fine French perfume “nose” or seasoned sommelier, her nose will detect the slightest nuances and can reveal volumes about you.

The portion of women’s brains that is devoted to scent detection is larger than that of men’s.

One theory is that women require a greater sense of smell for selecting a suitable mate. In other words, men can mate with many women and have children with each of them and have many offspring in a given time period. In contrast, women can only have one baby in a nine month time period so it makes sense for them to be more selective about their mate. Male scent may confer key data like testosterone levels (which can be desirable), and information about genetic compatibility or lack thereof via major histocompatibility complex (MHC) genes. (1)

While you may not be able to tell what your friends have been munching on, I know a gal or two who can easily detect when you’ve lunched on filet mignon before seeing her. One of my own dates was quite bewildered when I correctly guessed the label and year of chardonnay he’d been sipping earlier at a business lunch.

Our sense of smell has been proven to create the strongest sense memory, indelibly cementing a moment in time with a particular scent and emotion.

Think of how you feel, besides hungry when you get a whiff of someone’s BBQ or campfire in passing. Puts you in another moment, doesn’t it?  The object is to have your lady anchor your scent with a romantic, ‘scentsual’ experience.

You know that old saying “I smell trouble”? Well, besides the scent of a homemade meal you know she’ll love, here are three tips to avoid setting off one of her most powerful “trouble detectors”, her nose:

  • Survey says that women prefer a recently showered man – clean is sexy. A bit of cologne is appealing, a light, fresh scent that will make her want to lean in closer for a sniff of your warm neck rather than back off for some fresh air. No doubt you’ve been bowled over at one point or another by a passerby’s perfume so obnoxiously foul that it could knock a buzzard off a garbage truck. Same thing but multiply that tenfold for her.
  • The same goes for your breath. Meaning avoid not just the obvious –  onions, garlic, salami, smoking, etc, that day and the day before (it’s shocking – the afterlife of the aforementioned items). On the day of (prior to her arrival) also avoid beer, red wine, sugary foods, sodas strong cheeses and other pungent foods. Your breath should have her thinking, “hmm… I wonder if he’s a good kisser”, not “excuse me, I think I forgot something on my stove!” (I’ve actually done that). To a woman, bad breath is the death knell as far as smooching goes.
  • Drinking plenty of water, about eight glasses a day will help flush toxins that can cause halitosis. Choose water over juices and flavored drinks to help meet the quota and keep your breath fresh. Caffeinated and alcoholic beverages don’t count, sorry, they’ll dehydrate you, negating all that water you just chugged. Even Diet Colas can cause your breath to be very uninviting. Breath mints can temporarily mask things when in doubt, but don’t leave them in view. Women notice the details. They remember them.

Take heart, the attention to detail you’ve demonstrated by creating a succulent, fragrant meal for her first date at your place will definitely not go unnoticed. She will appreciate all your hard work more than you know. If you want her leaning in close behind to get a peek at your skillet it’s equally important that you put the same effort into making sure you smell as delicious and tempting as your dinner. Who knows… your whipped cream, fresh berries and chocolate drizzle may end up somewhere entirely different than the intended dessert plates 🙂

By using the tidbits offered in this and my other posts to your advantage you’ll easily step into being the confident, irresistible gentleman you are. Oh, I think there’s someone at the door, sniff, sniff…

Esmée St James – The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious Men

(1) www.quora.com/Do-women-have-a-more-acute-sense-of-smell-than-men

Esmée St James, How to Approach Women

Tips On How To Approach Women

LAST WEEK A TOTAL STRANGER DECIDED TO APPROACH ME on the street and within seconds, had me charmed. There was nothing extraordinary about this man, at first blush he seemed quite ordinary. He was about 5’6” or so because I remember that day I was wearing heels and was towering over him.

But there was something special about him…

I had just walked out of a gift shop. It was one of those days when it’s threatening to rain, but not really. You know, when it’s quiet out, there is no one around and you kind of get lost in your thoughts.

As  I walked down the street I noticed a man about to approach me. The first thing he did was look me in the eye, a little longer than a casual glance. Then he gave me a big smile and said “Lisa! What  are you doing here… wait, you’re not Lisa. You look exactly like a woman I went to college with, she’s a really good friend of mine. I was wondering what you were doing here but, obviously… you’re not Lisa.”

“My God… in this light your eyes look amazing, wow.”

“Oh, I’m sorry my name is Ozell. Some friends of mine said I should come to this town and check it out, I work at Google. They said this was a nice place to go and meet people. Hey, you know what… I was just about to head for a coffee, would you like to join me?”

Well, I almost said yes and then remembered, “oh, wait… I’m in relationship!

I realized that Ozell was trying to pick me up and probably used this line on many of the women that was attracted to. But you know what, he was so charming and confident, without being cocky. He gave me such a genuine smile that I really didn’t mind. He was so engaging.

What I admire about Ozell is that he had the courage to step outside his comfort zone and approach me. 

If you’re more of a reserved kind of guy, I get it. Trust me, I totally get it. I used to be so shy and reserved around guys, I couldn’t even talk to them. Then I decided to really challenge myself and play outside the box. It worked!

Always keep in mind that even if you start small you’ll get there, take the little baby steps.

Let’s break apart Ozell’s approach. The first thing he did was look me squarely in the eye, then he gave me that big ole’ smile. I’m going to invite you to try that. In fact, don’t try it, just do it!

Next time you go walking down the street and see a woman, make eye contact with her and then give her a smile. She doesn’t have to be attractive to you, it doesn’t matter. This is just practice.

Just look her in the eyes and smile as you approach her.

Don’t attach yourself to the outcome, it doesn’t matter whether she smiles back or not, who cares! You’re just practicing on her. Smile, then just keep on walking.

Remember, start small because if you don’t start somewhere… You will get nowhere. Have a little courage and step outside your comfort zone.

If you would like some help from a woman’s perspective with talking to women and knowing what to say, I invite you to Email me to schedule for a complimentary 15 minute consultation. I would love to connect with you. I promise I’ll be gentle:-)

Thank you for tuning in, talk to you soon!

Email me to schedule now!

Esmée St James

 

 

The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious Men
The DatingMuse.com
info@thedatingmuse.com

(866) 546-9955

Seducing Her With Strategic Housekeeping

Seducing Her With Strategic Housekeeping

AS YOU SHOW YOUR DATE INTO your kitchen, with every intention of seducing her, watch her eyes. She’s looking everywhere, isn’t she? So much going on in that pretty head… Every little thing she notices about your home is making an impression on her, a lasting first impression that may make or break your chance of seducing her.

Remember how my previous post stated women are looking for reasons not to like you in the initial stages of dating? This is where your attention to detail preceding her arrival comes in handy, making your love interest feel safe and comfortable will help her relax and stir romantic desires in her. Don’t be afraid to let your inner decorator and housekeeper come out to play, they can be your best friend. (We’ll let that be our dirty little secret.)

Equally important as looking and smelling studly yourself is the scent and appearance of your home. The following pointers are sure to help turn your place into the swingin’ bachelor pad that’ll have her begging for more:

Tip 1  Barring a blizzard, air your place out thoroughly for at least an hour before your date arrives. Especially if you have pets. You may not notice how stale air can sink into the furniture but she will. She will detect your gym bag and dirty laundry three rooms away. Don’t take a chance on this one, especially in the bedroom! More on that in a future article.

Tip 2  Light a few aromatic candles about half an hour early, just a few, she may not be into voodoo… yet. Stick with a comforting warm vanilla/nutty or cinnamon scent for now. Works wonders.

Tip 3  One indispensable word here – Clean! And I mean every room she could potentially enter on the eve of your date. The sight of clutter and junk laying around will have her forever unavailable to you. A tidy home tells her you look after yourself and therefore care about and can look after her as a function of your life and habits. If hunting for dust bunnies and spider webs are not your specialty, hire someone to do the dirty work for you. You’ll be glad you did when you see her eyes sparkle. It is worth every penny.

Tip 4  How about seducing her with your mind? Keep some strategically placed books out on subjects you’re passionate about, e.g. cooking, sailing, astronomy. Make them ‘touchable’ by having something graceful or soft next to them,, e.g. a soft blanket. A lived in look is desirable, books are great conversation starters and will offer her insight on the depth and diversity of your character. Tuck your porn collection away until further notice. She doesn’t want to feel part of a fantasy but someone unique and potentially treasured.

Tip 5  Get fresh cut flowers, they’re always a big hit. Colorful supermarket flowers will do just fine, stick ‘em in a handsome vase where they are clearly visible for the evening. An especially nice touch is flowers in the bathroom, a ‘must’ is a fresh hand towel laid out for her.

Tip 6  Speaking of bathrooms, you knew this one was coming… did I mention – Clean! This room can be a deal breaker in so many unsuspecting ways. Toilet seat and lid must be down (for the rest of your relationship life), spotless and fresh smelling in every corner is paramount. She will probably peek in your medicine cabinet so straighten it up, tuck toenail fungus creams, viagra and hemorrhoid ointments out of sight. Hell yeah, I ALWAYS look, it tells me everything I need to know.

This may sound like a lot of work – focus on your intention of seducing her, she’s worth it as are you. Keeping your eyes on the prize (and not her breasts) will keep her coming back for more.

Esmée St JamesThe Dating Muse for Smart, Serious Men

Seduce Her With Your Cooking Skills

Seduce Her With Your Cooking Skills!

TO A WOMAN, THERE’S NOTHING SEXIER THAN having a man seduce her by cooking her a romantic meal at his home.Of course dressing in clothes that both fit and flatter you and are right for the occasion is of the utmost importance when you invite that special lady over to dinner. But there’s much, much more to making a favorable first impression on the object of your desire than just looking hot.

Recently I surveyed a number of single women between the ages of 25 and 65 about turn-ons and turn-offs when invited to a man’s home for a dinner date. I’m going to share with you, in a series of posts what, from a woman’s perspective will stir romantic feelings in her upon entering your home. Overlooking certain key details could make the evening a bust.

If you aim to seduce, remember that 93% of all communication is nonverbal

It’s not what you say but what you do that will help make a good impression on her and hence potentially seduce her. Being prepared when your date arrives plays a huge part in helping her relax and feel welcome. That relaxed ‘I’m in good hands’ feeling will set the stage for the evening.

What do I mean by being prepared? Forget last minute invites… invite her about a week in advance and confirm the day before. A woman will love both the anticipation and the thought that she is on your mind all week. It may not actually be the case, you could be away at a five day ice fishing conference in Tuktoyaktuk for all she knows, but… You want to convey that you are busy planning and thinking about her all week because it shows that she is important to you.

So heed your scout’s honor vow, do not be hastily stuffing a chicken in the oven when she arrives for your date.

Coq au Vin, anyone?

Esmée St James – The Dating Muse For Smart, Serious Men